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| Jamie Maugans Stories |
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| Allison McQueen - Honor
Our Heroes (11 SEP 02) |
| I read the article about
Jamie in today's paper (well yesterday's now) and I feel this
overwhelming need to honor him in remembrance of September 11th.
It's amazing, you know, how many people choose to ignore the significance
of today and how many people continue to go about their lives
as if nothing happened. It seemed like every where I went today
it was "business as usual." This may not mean
much, but I was upset to find that I was probably the only one
in my classes today to be wearing the grand colors of red, white,
and blue. To others, as I said, it may not mean much, but I
feel like it's the least I can do to honor our country, the
victims, and our countries hero's.
Like many others, I have never met Jamie Maugans. But,
I have been blessed with the opportunity to meet his parents
and many of his friends that carry on his legacy and celebrate
his life. It is awesome to see such a commitment to each other
as friends and as "extended families." I honor Jamie
for serving your country and for protecting our freedom. My
sympathy to Jamie's family and friends. May the strength of
faith lead us to new hope and new peace each day.
Sincerely,
Allison McQueen |
| Melissa
Lovett - War on Terror (13 JUL 02) |
Dear friends,
I am the Daughter of WO Steve Lovett, the man who created the
Op Apollo site, on
which you found his memorial for your friend. I know what
it is like to have lost someone in this war on terrorism. I was
a very close friend of Private Richard Green. We went through
Jr. high and graduated High school together in a very close knit
group of friends.
My sympathy goes out to you and his friends and family. I know
how hard this is. What I hope for the most is for this to someday
be over and for us not to lose anyone else. My Father will be
coming home at the end of this month and for that I am forever
grateful.
~May God be with you all, and may Jamie rest in peace~
Melissa
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| Tausha
Riebel - A True Friend (11 JUL 02) |
| Wow...I still can't believe
that this is really happening. I know that a lot of people feel
the same. I guess here I am still months later living in this
daze and in a way I am still expecting Jamie to come home. Slowly
I am realizing that my life is never quite going to be the same.
Jamie was the first person to really accept me into 'the group'.
To everyone else I was 'Trisha's little sister' but Jamie
never made me feel that way. He gave me my love of darts! We
would go to Buster's and while everyone else was drinking (I
wasn't 21 yet) Jamie would challenge me to a game of darts (before
they took the dartboard out) and we would end up playing most
of the night. I knew that he was only doing it so that I wouldn't
be left out but that was also the start of a wonderful friendship.
That was just the way Jamie was as most of you that knew him
already know. He went out of his way to make sure everyone was
happy and that no one was left behind.
I have since grown up and gotten to be a part of this
group that turned out to the most awesome people in the world.
Jamie was one of the most special people that I have ever had
the privilege to know and I feel so lucky to have had the opportunity
to be a part of his life. I thank God for every moment that
I had with him. There is a song that I would like to dedicate
to Jamie called "FRIENDS" by Michael W. Smith. It is a very
powerful song and I think of him every time I hear it. I express
myself a lot by writing because I am not one that likes to show
my emotions very often and there is a poem that I would like
to share with everyone. I wrote it in memory of Jamie.
A soldier stands tall takes what he receives,
Fights not only for his country but what he believes.
He is honest, courageous, loyal, and strong,
Working every minute to try to right a wrong.
He fights for his country so we can be free,
He lays down his life for you and for me.
I once knew a soldier above all the rest,
He gave his all and did his very best.
I am proud to have know him and thank God everyday,
He was the most amazing person in every single way.
Forever I will miss him it is hard to let him go,
But he will always be in my heart, my friend, my hero.
I have since grown up and gotten to be a part of this group
that turned out to be the most awesome people in the world and
would like to say to Trish, Russ, Dave, Matt, Josh, Getchell
and all the others that I am forgetting that I truly feel blessed
to have friends like you and I love you all.
To Matt and Chad I just want to say thank you for being there
when I needed a friend and shoulder to cry on. It is appreciated
more than you know. To Jamie's family I would like to say that
I am deeply saddened by your loss as it is a big one of my own
and that if any of you ever need anything please don't hesitate
to ask. I would like to be there for all of you the way that
Jamie was for me.
Last I would like to say to Jamie...I love you, I miss you,
and I can't wait to see that beautiful smile of yours again
someday. You will never be forgotten buddy!
Until We Meet Again,
Tausha Riebel
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| Mimi Rodgers
- Jamie, Jamie Maugans, King of the Wild Frontier (10 JUL 02) |
| I'm afraid
I don't have much of a story, just a memory really. Perhaps
it might be comforting for his family to know that he is remembered
to people who are very far away.
I lived in Derby for 4 years and was in the same class as Jamie.
We knew each other from classes and would talk occasionally
here and there, as classmates do. Our Freshman year we were
in Mrs. Cunningham's English class. She was a lovely teacher
and very fond of making up nicknames for all the students (i.e.
Dawn was Dusk, James Noble was Chernobyl, I was Mememememe).
My favourite, and the favourite of the class I would guess due
to the laughter and smiles of all when she would say it, was
Jamie's.
She would sing out to the tune of Davey Crocket, "Jamie, Jamie
Maugans, King of the Wild Frontier." I have never forgotten
that nickname and told that story to many people throughout
the years.
I moved away after that year, and have since then moved to
Australia (that's why I have all those funny spellings for things
like favourite). The events of September 11th touched me deeply
here, as well as all of my Australian friends who's outpouring
of support for America was amazing. I was saddened to hear about
Jamie, it is such a tragedy. My thoughts and prayers go out
to his family and friends. I think the site that was set up
is beautiful, and I hope that this little story brings a smile
to his loved ones.
What I did know of Jamie, through our limited contact, was
he was always warm, friendly, easy to talk to and always had
a smile.
God Bless
Mimi Rodgers
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| Russ Wilcox - Jamie's Road
Trip to Emporia (17 APR 02) |
I know I have a lot of stories of Jamie, who doesn't, I mean
we took road trips to K-State, walked home from Josh's girlfriend's
birthday party, where he told me he wanted to go into the army
and be airborne, as well as many a time he told Josh that he
had a friend hurting (me) during one of our falling's out, over
Trish no less, and that it's his duty to make it better. However,
one stands out that I'll never forget as long as I live, and
well if I don't share this, I'd regret it, and parts I remember,
are starting to fade...so maybe you guys can help me remember
later on.
I was in college, it was my sophomore year, and I had just begun
living in an apartment on my own. A small, studio apartment,
with paper thin walls, a small, twin bed with a headboard I
found in the hallway, and a couch made of wood, cinder blocks
and an old green pad with a back, some of you slept on that
when I lived with Josh and Rob. I never had any company, but
one weekend, Josh, my brother Dave, Jamie, and Matt Everhart
decided to come visit. As I recall it was Josh's senior year
and he was driving the lambada mobile, otherwise known as the
70 Chevy Caprice. A car so large, you could park Joel Walker's
vehicle in it with room to spare. Anyway, as the story goes,
these guys, or at least I thought it was just the "guys" came
up on a Friday I believe and low and behold, Matt brings a girl
(an a-typical Matt thing).
Well they arrive and we begin sitting around chatting, I don't
recall, but we might have gone out. Now I don't promote Underage
drinking, but I have to admit, at that stage, even Dave was
drinking me under the table, and for a kid Jamie's size, we
didn't think it would be a problem. Well as the night progresses,
we begin to indulge, I think I had bought beer, or had someone
buy it for us, and I think these guys brought something like
Jim Beam...mmm mmm mmm...but no worries, cause Jamie can hold
his liquor.
Night falls, we're drunk, some girls call, Jamie said, invite
'em over, so I do. This is where comedy commences...as Mack
Daddy Jamie begins to put moves on a girl who is dating my former
roommate. She brings along some nasty looking chic, but never
fear, cause young Maugans thinks Dave is attractive at this
point. We're all kind of laughing, just making jokes, they think
we're dorks, Jamie is still trying to make time with the ugly
ones...but they end up leaving, we begin drinking again, and
now Jamie and Dave are hammered. Surprisingly, even though I
was a boy scout in high school, I had my fair share of tips
to the lips and it was starting to get out of control.
Picture 5 guys and 1 girl in a room the size of a shoebox, and
the only source of entertainment is watching Matt hit on the
girl he brought (in other words, outside of Jamie and Dave,
the night was a bust). I mean I had a television, but it had
one channel and I had it hooked up with tinfoil and wires connected
to the curtain rods. Josh or I, one or the two, took the homemade
couch and the other took the floor with "Jim Maugans - Male
Prostitute" and Dave, who incidentally had not done much to
this point...but, well, be Dave.
Somewhere along the lines, Jamie got up to do a number, but
was stumbling, and having a real hard time getting to the bathroom.
Well Josh stepped up, helped him in there, but Jamie couldn't
get his pants down...funny how a man saying he will just go
in his pants can inspire anyone to help. Josh helped him get
his pants down and somehow managed to get him centered over
the toilet enough to do his duty, then proceeded to help him
put his pants back up...now for me, Jamie's goods are Jamie's
goods...and there is a point to getting too close, I think Josh
was on the border. Now if you have ever heard Jamie's laugh,
and it's one we'll all never forget, he's doing that while Josh
is helping him, all the while trying to concentrate. About this
time, we look over and Dave is vomiting in his sleep, now my
dad is reading this, so I'll be brief, but he is just vomiting,
while sleeping, all over himself, and all over what few blankets
I had. I'm freaking out, getting him woken up. So he wakes up,
I start cleaning that up, and Josh is helping Jamie, I don't
know that either one of us was in a better position than the
other, but it was quite a site to see. Then after everything
is said and done, Josh and I stayed up til like 4 am cleaning
up, doing laundry, and making sure everyone is okay. Now I ask
you, where was Matt? Asleep....in my bed...(are you surprised?)
The Kicker was the next morning, they are packing up, we're
giving Jamie and Dave crap about how "well" they hold their
alcohol, and the phone rings. None of us answer it, but let
my answering machine pick it up...it's the manager of the apartment
complex. She says..."Russ, This is the manager, I understand
you had a big party last night, I don't want to have to call
your mother." At the time I was a bit frightened, it was not
what I wanted to hear after our hellish night taking care of
the bumbling twins.
Anyway, the point of all of this is that of all the years I
had in college, all the parties we had, all of the people we've
had to our house, all the excursions that I have been though,
that is the one story that stands out the most.
I have several more, and could probably write a book of my own...as
could most of you, but I wanted to share this with you and the
people that could most understand how marvelous and magnificent
the memories can be, even when that person is no longer with
us. He'll never be gone, he'll always be with me...and I'm thankful
for all of the time I spent with him, and for the cherished
memories that did indeed make up Jamie Maugans. I hope he knew
how much of an impact he made, I hope he realized that he had
so many friends and family members and even extended Families
that took him in to be part of their family, and how he touched
each and every one of our lives. I also hope that each one of
you realizes the same thing.
God bless,
Russ
Russ Wilcox
(I
want to apologize for hurting the person that accompanied the
guys on this trip, no disrespect was intented towards her and
her name was removed. The story was intended to poke fun at
Matt and talk about Jamie, not slander her name...again, I offer
my deepest apologies.)
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| Joel Walker - Thoughts
and Prayers (17 APR 02) |
Most of you do not know me or remember me very well because it
has been way too long since I talked to my high school friends.
I just starting communicating with Russ Wilcox again...my best
friend in high school...and it was he who told me about this event.
I remember Jamie and his brother Chad and the fun we had in band.
I don't have a long past with either, though. I do want you all
to know that my thoughts and prayers, as well as those of my family,
go out to the family and to all of you who need an extra boost
today. Take care and a big thank you to Russ for sharing this
with me.
Joel Walker
Comments from Joel Walker |
| Ryan Everhart - The Wookie
(17 APR 02) |
Hello all, Ryan Everhart here. Most of you all know me as Matt's
little brother. That’s okay because that is how I met, and got
to know Jamie. I always knew someday I would eventually get bigger
than Jamie and hopefully pay him back for some of the beatings
I received growing up. Not that those beatings were his fault
mind you, he left it up to my brother to start the games.
Well that day never came, Jamie joined the army and I never could
get myself to mess with a guy who blew things up for a living.
Like Russ' my story is also one of underage drinking. I guess
when we grow up in Derby there is just nothing else to do right?
It started with a road trip to KU to visit my brother. Jamie was
living with Matt at the time in an apartment on the west side
of town. A couple friends of mine, Corey, Ian and I had made the
journey to have fun and to see if KU was as fun as they said it
was. After all it was our senior year and we need a place to go
to college. I believe it must have been a Saturday night when
Matt, Corey, Ian and I went out to a party somewhere on the other
side of town. All I really remember is driving back from the party
on one of the main drags and pulling over as Ian had to relieve
himself. Jamie was not with us that night nor was he there when
we arrived into town because he had to work at Target. He was
home however when we got home. Now all of you know or you do know
now that Jamie is a very hairy man and up to this point Corey
and Ian had not met Jamie. We walk into the apartment and were
getting ready to go to bed when Jamie walks out of his room with
no shirt on. Needless to say with the alcohol in our system everyone
busted out laughing. It was quite a site. I remember either Ian
or Corey say "he looks like a freakin wookie!". (Wookie being
Chewbacca from the early Star Wars movie.)
That’s the funny story (or at least funny to me) that comes to
mind for me. I remember little tid-bits like jumping on his back
when we were wrestling around and him not even flinch. I was little
and he was big, I don't know what I was thinking. Being chased
around by Jamie and my brother with sticks and other objects.
There aren't too many people in the world like Jamie and I'm glad
to have known him. He was a great friend of my brother, of mine
and to the family. He will be missed. I wish he could have made
it to my wedding and would have known that Michelle and I are
going to have a baby.
To Matt, Josh, Russ, Dave, Trisha and other close friends I feel
your pain and hope that stories will help ease that pain. I miss
you all and events like this make it so hard to be away from home.
Gods Speed Jamie,
Ryan
Ryan Everhart
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| Barbara Wilcox - Thank
You (17 APR 02) |
Thank you for the emails and photos of Jamie. He was so sweet;
a big guy, yet such a "teddy bear". We will miss him. It is such
a tragedy. I was talking to Kristie last night. She, of course,
remembers Jamie...and recalls harassing him when he came over
to the house (back in her junior high days)!
Love, Barb
Contributed by Barbara Wilcox (Parent of Russ and Dave Wilcox)
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| Marc McCall - Memories
(17 APR 02) |
When I received the pictures from Russ, it brought back a lot
of memories. The first picture was of Jamie and his big grin.
It brought a big smile to my face. I haven't seen him in many
years and don't have the stories/memories to tell but that smile
made an impression on me. I remember a great guy and I feel for
all of you close to him. It has been years for me, and it affected
me. I will be thinking of everyone and take care. Marc
Contributed by Marc McCall
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| Kelly Gray - Brothers (17
APR 02) |
I talked with Jaime quite a bit online while he was in San Diego.
Most of the time it was usually late at night . He was always
just getting in from a night out with friends out there. Most
of the time we would talk about him being ready to come back and
see all of us back here. Usually I would always kid him about
that San Diego Padres jersey that he promised me. I've decided
that I'm going to go ahead and get that jersey and have his name
put on the back. I’m not really going to tell any certain story
but more just kind of tell you how I feel. Jamie was a guy that
you could tell anything to and he would always listen....and sometimes
he would throw some advice to you. But most of all he would just
listen to what you had to say. And he would never judge you by
what you did say. You know like all the grammatical errors that
I'm probably making...he wouldn't judge me for that either. I
want to say (and I'm sure this goes for Ryan too) that you guys
have all been like older brothers to me. ALL of you have! And
I think that everyone in this "circle" (including moms and dads)
feels like we are all family....and we are. I hope we all remember
that. To take something from what Josh said in the paper "Jaime
always treated everybody like it was the last time that he would
see them" and I think that is something we should learn from.
We shouldn’t ever let anything ever come between friendship.
And being that most of us are now married, women shouldn’t be
a problem anymore. Besides I don't think Jenny Guler lives around
here anymore! :) Growing up I always looked up to all of you guys.
You liked to kind of poke fun at me every once in a while...but
hey, that's what big brothers do. I have learned something from
every one of you guys. What I learned from Jamie the most is probably
commitment. When he didn't pass his physical to get into the army…sure
he was down a little at first, but it wasn’t gonna stop him from
his achievement. He worked hard to get into the army. But it was
not just the army he was committed to...it was also his family
and friends. I can think back at a few times where someone was
always mad at somebody about something...but I cant think of one
time that I have ever heard of anyone being mad at Jamie or Jamie
being mad at someone. That commitment to life is something i will
always remember about Jamie Maugans. Jaime was a true friend to
everyone he met. I hope that we can learn from him and remain
committed to our friendships. I want to thank you Jaime for teaching
me that. I will try to always remember it.
We all love you,
Kelly M. Gray
Kelly Gray
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| Dave Wilcox - Big Toy (18
APR 02) |
First let me say thank you to all who maybe didn't know Jamie
as well, but has offered their condolences and comforting words.
It really helps to begin the healing process. I also ask that
you keep Jamie's family in your prayers in this confusing and
trying time for them. I cannot wait to get home and see everybody
and Jamie's parents; I think that will help me tremendously to
gain some closure.
My story goes back a little further and varies slightly from the
others that I have heard in that it reveals a different perspective
on the friendship between Jamie and I. It goes back to the first
time I met Jamie (I believe it was the third grade). This was
a story he and I used to laugh about because contrary to many
people's belief we didn't start out as friends. As a matter of
fact, our first encounter was one of altercation.
It started with Jamie climbing the "Big Toy" at Pleasantview.
You all remember the wooden jungle gyms on the playgrounds, right?
Anyway, the one at Pleasantview had a three tiered tower that
you could climb and look out the windows of. Jamie figured out
that from that height and position you could also spit very long
distances. You may see where this one is going... Jamie loaded
up and shot one directly on top of me. Thoroughly angered I tried
to coax him down from his stoop, but he wasn't having any of it.
So, I decided to go up after him. Before the playground aides
could show up, I had a hold of Jamie's leg trying to yank him
out of that tower. He wasn't budging, but boy was I trying. I
don't really remember the follow-up, but I know we were friends
after that because I remember hanging out a lot with Jamie and
Jason King after school. I also remember walking home with Jamie
at times because we both lived in the Derby Hills area.
There are so many more stories that I could tell; some of which
my parents probably don't need to know (but thanks anyway Russ
hehe). Stories like when we used to drive around in the "Power
Van" when we were 14 and 15 and I used to give him rides home
from his job at McDonalds; or the times Jamie, Serenity, and I
used to leave school a little early to cruise in the Mustang our
Senior year only to meet all the "cool" graduates like Getchell
down at the Sonic (We were the only fools there in the middle
of winter, remember the picture in the yearbook Scott?). The band
trips; weekends at my Grandparents; M-TV's top ten at five; Stealth
mode in Josh's car; 99; 127; 159; my trying times at KU; the good
times, the bad times; I could go on for days.
Jamie was definitely one of the most important people in my life
and he will be greatly missed. He had a heart of gold and was
the best friend a guy could ever have.
Let us not forget the cause that Jamie and thirty-six others have
died for. Be proud Americans and keep fighting for what we believe
in. This is the greatest country in the world and to Jamie it
was worth the risk!
We're proud of you Maugans, and we won't forget!
Love,
Dave
Contributed by Dave Wilcox |
| Scott Getchell - Chic Magnets
(18 APR 02) |
Hey Everybody, just how awesome it is that Jamie has been such
a huge part of our lives and how great it is that everybody
is sharing their stories. I sit here and I think about all the
past memories that I've had with Jamie, there’s no doubt that
most of you have been around Jamie a lot longer than I have,
but I will always cherish the time in which Jamie had become
a very close personal friend. In a time when I needed people
the most (we all know the time) Jamie was there for me, not
just some of the time but all of the time.
He always made sure I was taken care of and at the time I wasn't
sure why he would always go out of his way to help me. As the
bad times started to get better I realized Jamie is genuine.
he is that one person who cares more about his friends and family
than he did himself. Our group of friends is blessed to have
somebody like him.
When I think back on stories I remember can remember a couple;
One that stands out right after we all graduated all of our
friends were buying their new motorcycles you know the really
fast chic magnets.
Well I decided to get one a 1980 Kawasaki LTD. The bike came
with banana handle bars and everything even weighed a few thousand
pounds. Okay, back to the story. One day we were all on our
bike and everybody was doing wheelies up and down the street.
My bike would do them until we figured out that if Jamie was
on back. So Jamie gets on here we come flying down the street
on one wheel with Jamie sitting on back with his hands flying
in the air and screaming like a woman. The man could make anything
happen.
We love ya man, you will always be with us
Contributed by Scott Getchell
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| Corey Shulda - Good Listener
(18 APR 02) |
I'm glad to see so many of our friends reaching out to one another
with stories that bring out the cherished memories of Jamie. He
was a good friend, a good listener, and an all around good person.
It makes me sad that this had to happen, especially to someone
that was such a good friend to us all.
I got to hang out with Jamie a lot (unfortunately no time recently)
whether it was in Derby at the Wilcox house or somewhere else
in Derby, when he visited K-State, or when I visited KU. And the
one thing that I remember most, putting all of the partying and
carrying on aside, was talking with him. We didn't exactly call
each other all of the time to see what was going on, but when
we did hang out we always had a lot to talk about, and I think
that's exactly why this is special to me. I will always remember
talking to him and he would want to know all about what I was
doing. The conversations would go back and forth about each of
us, but he would always steer it back towards me. He would be
smiling all of the time and always took a great interest in what
I had to say and in others, that's just the way he was. He would
never start a new conversation leaving my words floating in thin
air. Jamie would give me his full attention until he knew I was
finished talking. But even then, he would keep asking me more.
It made me happy to know that I had a friend that took that much
interest in my life and it makes me happy to know that I have
friends like all of you who do the same.
Most people outside of our group of friends are dumbfounded when
I speak of you guys back home. They just can't imagine how many
friends we have, still, since high school, even elementary school.
How close we are and how the number of friends keeps growing.
Even if we don't see each other very often, it says a lot about
the type of people we are and the type of people our friends are,
and especially Jamie. He knew exactly how to make us feel better
about what was going on in our lives and what we were doing. He
was truly a good person and still a good friend, because even
though he isn't here anymore, he will always be with us every
time we're together. I can't imagine a time, from this day forward
when we get together that Jamie's name, a story that involved
him, or a story about him won't come up in conversation. I know
this has changed our lives, but it also shows how close we've
been and how close we are and how much he meant to all of us.
My heart goes out to Jamie's family, my friends and their families,
and especially Jamie. He meant so much to those around him and
those of us that cherished his friendship and loved him like family.
Jamie will truly be missed, but not forgotten.
Contributed by Corey Shulda |
| Ryan Pitts - Condolences
(19 APR 02) |
Just thought I would say hello and send my condolences. I spoke
with Dave (Wilcox) earlier this week. I feel real bad about Jamie.
Although I was not a close friend of his I was around him enough
over the years to know that he was a great guy and I can see why
his friends loved him so much. I just thought that you and the
rest of his friends should know that others are thinking about
what happened and will keep you all in our prayers.
Ryan Pitts
Friend |
| Candy Bell - Summer Help
(19 APR 02) |
Although I do not have any personal experience stories with Jamie,
I just wanted to say that I think what you are doing with this
chain e-mail is such an awesome tribute to him. Everyone should
be so lucky as to have such a large group of very close friends.
Somehow I think he knew how much he meant to you all.
I remember Jamie from his time he worked here at the Turnpike
as summer help. I have also seen and talked to him on several
occasions at Buster's with the gang. I know he was the kind, gentle
and considerate person you have all described. You all have every
right to be proud to call him a true friend.
I never had a son, but if I had, I would have wanted him to turn
out just like any one of you guys. Russ and Dave are the closest
I have come to having sons and I know how much Jan thought of
Jamie. I have heard her talk about him a lot. I think it is so
cool that so many of you have stayed close and still hang together
since childhood. Never take that for granted. Your closeness with
each other will help you through this. The memories you have of
Jamie will comfort and help you smile the rest of your lives.
He is a true hero and will never be forgotten.
I just wanted to let you know that Jamie's family and all his
friends are in my prayers.
May God comfort and keep you,
Candy Bell
Candy Bell – Co-worker/ Friend |
| Jan and Dan Strunk - Lessons
Learned (19 APR 02) |
Well, here I am feeling like I have lost one of my own sons. Jamie
was with our family since grade school and I remember Kathy and
I going on the field trips with our sons. There was Jamie, the
quiet one, and David the ornery one (sorry Dave). We had many
good times at our house. Jamie was always so kind and polite and
always made a special effort to come and tell me thank you for
everything. I remember the grade school, junior high and high
school band concerts. I remember the trip to the Citrus Bowl and
Dan was the sponsor for Dave and Jamie's room. What a fun trip
that was!!! He always knew where Dan was with the camera and would
look out of the corner of his eye with that big grin. He was the
belly buster king at our pool and always was trying to see how
far he could make a splash.
Everyone of you have been at my house at sometime in your lives
and I love you all. You have been great friends to my boys as
well as Dan and I. I thank Scott Getchell and Trisha for coming
over and spending time with Dan and I the other night as they
knew we were both hurting as you all are. It is so neat to see
you all coming together and supporting each other through this
difficult time. I'm sure you all are realizing it now but friends
are very important in a person's life. When something goes wrong
in our lives our close friends and family will always be there
to pick up the pieces.
Friendship should never be taken for granted. Please treat this
tragedy as a learning lesson to always keep in touch with each
other, pray for each other, listen to each other and most of all
tell your friends and family that you love them. You may not get
the chance again.
Here is a piece that I found the other day and it sums up my feelings
for Jamie: "People important to you, people unimportant
to you cross your life, touch it with love and carelessness and
move on. There are people who leave you, and you breathe a sigh
of relief, and wonder why you ever came in contact with them.
There are people who leave you and you breath a sigh of remorse,
and wonder why they had to go away and leave such a gaping hole.
Children leave parents. Friends leave friends. Acquaintances move
on. People change homes. People grow apart. Enemies hate and move
on. Friends love and move on. I believe in God's master plan in
lives. He moves people in and out of each other's lives and each
leave his mark on the other. You find that you are made up of
bits and pieces of all who ever touched your life, and you are
more because of it. And you would be less if they had not touched
you."
I know I would be less if I had never known Jamie. He was a friend
who
left a mark on my life. Thank you Jamie being a huge part of the
lives of my boys and Dan and I. You truly are our hero!!!
We love you Jamie!
Dan and Jan Strunk
Parents of Russ and Dave Wilcox |
| Russ Wilcox - Personal
Note to Chad (23 APR 02) |
Good morning Chad,
First of all, thank you for the update, and for keeping me in
the loop of things...it's extremely hard being away from everyone
at this point, not having friends to comfort me who knew him,
and the worst part is that no one has answers to the questions
we all have.
On a personal note Chad, I just want to tell you that your brother
meant the absolute world to me. He was the kindest, most considerate
person I ever met in my life. I have several stories and several
life experiences with Jamie, but above all, the one thing that
stands out lately when I think of Jamie is the night he told me
he was going to join the military. We were walking home from one
of Josh's girlfriend's house and he put it on the line for me.
He told me that he had talked to your mom about joining the military,
that he wanted to do airborne, at the time, he mentioned another
choice, but I don't think EOD was one of them, and that she was
distraught and didn't want him to join, but he said he needed
to convince her that it was the best thing for him. I think he
was working for Best Buy still and Matt Everhart was eager to
get him on board with the Military and Jamie was all for it. When
he couldn't go, I, like everyone else was relieved, but when he
finally got his weight down and told me he was going, I was terrified.
Jamie was one of my best friends, he knew me pretty much inside
and out, he was a friend to everyone, and enemy to noone, I just
didn't think 1, he could do it, and 2, was right for the military
and all of it's democratic nonsense. I was wrong on both parts.
If ever there was someone just right for a job and able to do
it effectively, it was Jamie.
Every time he came home he had new stories, and he told me one
night that he finally found his niche. School wasn't the place
for him and he always felt lost, but the military gave him direction,
gave him confidence, and you could tell just by looking at him,
and talking with him that he loved what he did and that for maybe
the first time in his life, he knew what he wanted and how to
go about doing it.
Your brother is truly unparalleled by anyone else I ever met...and
he was so much like a family member to me and my family, as well
as Josh and his, and Matt and his. He was an extension to so many
families, I'm sure I'm leaving some out. The end all...be all
is....if you ever need me, or I can ever help you or your family,
immediate and extended with anything, all you have to do is call
me. Though you and I may have never been as close as Jamie and
I were, I want you to know you can count on me for anything and
everything. I hope you know how much I loved Jamie and how much
he meant to me...and how much you and your family means to me
too. I hope we can get together when I'm home occassionally and
just have a drink or two, or take our wives and kids to dinner,
I truly want my family to know yours and learn more about Jamie...it
means that much! Take care, god bless, and my prayers and heart
are with you.
Russ Wilcox |
| Chad Maugans - Lost Soul
(26 APR 02) |
| Let us talk about Jamie...Man
oh man was he a lost soul for a while. I used to wonder about
him and what he was going to do with is life. I do not think that
I was as worried as Mom or Dad, but I sometimes had some doubts.
I remember the day when he told everyone he was going to join
the Army. Mom was fired up, David did not think it was such a
good idea, my Dad had great reservations about him enlisting.
They really got worried when he selected his M.O.S. in E.O.D.
I do not really remember him failing, but I do remember him losing
all that weight, eating better, and a shit load of running/exercise.
Mom used to talk about how Jamie and I did not like authority
or being told what to do!! She was right, neither one of us
liked authority. everyone was questioning why??? he choose the
Army. It did puzzle most people, but I was one of the few who
actually supported him and actually sat down and listened to
his career choice. It was a perfect selection for him. He loved
blowing shit up. He was very methodical in his approach to solving
problems, and he was never in a hurry....E.O.D. and Jamie were
a perfect match for each other.
I was so very proud of Jamie when he completed his training.
I was worried, but I knew Jamie was the right person for the
job. When he reached his units in Korea, Jamie just grew into
an awesome solider. San Diego was no different, he just got
better with the more experiences that he had. Jamie aged like
a fine wine, just gets better with time!!!! Then he made me
the proudest ever, when he was deployed to Afghanistan. That
poor country never saw him coming. You always gotta be careful
of the quiet guys, they will knock your feet, right out from
under you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My family has paid the highest price and made the ultimate
sacrifice for our freedoms and freedoms of others...Jamie's
short, but wonderful life!! This is the part where I get to
rant!! I also feel that Jamie died needlessly. I also feel that
Jamie died protecting a group of people who will never know
him or appreciate what he has done for them. His actions of
destroying weapons of war saved the countless lives of his fellow
soldiers as well as the vastly ungrateful Afghani people. There
are only a couple of things that even make Jamie's death remotely
understandable, and that is he loved his work. Look at his pictures,
he loved his work so much that he was willing to lay down his
life for his fellow brothers/soldiers without question and with
compromise. That is what keeps me going.
My family as well as I do appreciate the kindness, prayers,
and concerning thoughts about us as well as Jamie in this darkest
of hours. I thank you, for being such a good friend to Jamie.
He did speak highly of all of his friends. Once Jamie gave his
friendship to someone, you had it all the time and without question.
Russ, thanks for everything and for allowing me to vent...it
does help. I will keep you updated as we learn more. take care....
Chad Maugans
Brother/Friend
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| Why The American Flag Is
Folded 13 Times |
Have you ever wondered why the flag of the United States of America
is folded 13 times when it is lowered or when it is folded and
handed to the widow at the burial of a veteran? Here is the meaning
of each of those folds and what it means to you.
The 'first fold' of our flag is a symbol of life.
The 'second fold' is a symbol of our belief in eternal life.
The 'third fold' is made in honor and remembrance of the veterans
departing our ranks who gave a portion of their lives for the
defense of our country to attain peace throughout the world.
The 'fourth fold' represents our weaker nature, for as American
citizens trusting in God, it is to Him we turn in times of peace
as well as in time of war for His divine guidance.
The 'fifth fold' is a tribute to our country, for in the words
of Stephen Decatur, "Our Country, in dealing with other countries
may she always be right; but it is still our country, right or
wrong."
The 'sixth fold' is for where our hearts lie. It is with our heart
that we pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States Of
America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under
God, indivisible, with Liberty and Justice for all.
The 'seventh fold' is a tribute to our Armed Forces, for it is
through the Armed Forces that we protect our country and our flag
against all her enemies, whether they be found within or without
the boundaries of our republic.
The 'eighth fold' is a tribute to the one who entered into the
valley of the shadow of death, that we might see the light of
day, and to honor mother, for whom it flies on Mother's Day.
The 'ninth fold' is a tribute to womanhood; for it has been through
their faith, their love, loyalty and devotion that the character
of the men and women who have made this country great has been
molded.
The 'tenth fold' is a tribute to the father, for he, too, has
given his sons and daughters for the defense of our country since
they
were first born.
The 'eleventh fold', in the eyes of a Hebrew citizen represents
the lower portion of the seal of King David and King Solomon,
and glorifies in their eyes, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
The 'twelfth fold', in the eyes of a Christian citizen, represents
an emblem of eternity and glorifies, in their eyes, God the Father,
the Son, and Holy Spirit.
When the flag is completely folded, the stars are uppermost reminding
us of our nation's motto, "In God We Trust".
After the flag is completely folded and tucked in, it takes on
the appearance of a cocked hat, ever reminding us of the soldiers
who served under General George Washington, and the sailors and
marines who served under Captain John Paul Jones, who were followed
by their comrades and shipmates in the Armed Forces of the United
States, preserving for us the rights, privileges, and freedoms
we enjoy today.
The next time you see a flag ceremony honoring someone that has
served our country, either in the Armed Forces or in our civilian
services such as the Police Force or Fire Department, keep in
mind all the important reasons behind each and every movement.
They have paid the ultimate sacrifice for all of us by honoring
our flag and our Country.
Sgt. Grit
P.O. Box 60119G
Oklahoma City, OK 73146
(405)602-5490 • Fax (405) 602-5470
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