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I read the article about Jamie in today's paper (well yesterday's now) and I feel this overwhelming need to honor him in remembrance of September 11th. It's amazing, you know, how many people choose to ignore the significance of today and how many people continue to go about their lives as if nothing happened. It seemed like every where I went today it was "business as usual." 

This may not mean much, but I was upset to find that I was probably the only one in my classes today to be wearing the grand colors of red, white, and blue. To others, as I said, it may not mean much, but I feel like it's the least I can do to honor our country, the victims, and our countries hero's. 

 Like many others, I have never met Jamie Maugans. But, I have been blessed with the opportunity to meet his parents and many of his friends that carry on his legacy and celebrate his life. It is awesome to see such a commitment to each other as friends and as "extended families." I honor Jamie for serving your country and for protecting our freedom. My sympathy to Jamie's family and friends. May the strength of faith lead us to new hope and new peace each day. 

Sincerely, 
 Allison McQueen

Dear friends,
I am the Daughter of WO Steve Lovett, the man who created the Op Apollo site, on which you found his memorial  for your friend. I know what it is like to have lost someone in this war on terrorism. I was a very close friend of Private Richard Green. We went through Jr. high and graduated High school together in a very close knit group of friends.

My sympathy goes out to you and his friends and family. I know how hard this is. What I hope for the most is for this to someday be over and for us not to lose anyone else. My Father will be coming home at the end of this month and for that I am forever grateful.

~May God be with you all, and may Jamie rest in peace~
Melissa
 

Wow...I still can't believe that this is really happening. I know that a lot of people feel the same. I guess here I am still months later living in this daze and in a way I am still expecting Jamie to come home. Slowly I am realizing that my life is never quite going to be the same. Jamie was the first person to really accept me into 'the group'. 

To everyone else I was 'Trisha's little sister' but Jamie never made me feel that way. He gave me my love of darts! We would go to Buster's and while everyone else was drinking (I wasn't 21 yet) Jamie would challenge me to a game of darts (before they took the dartboard out) and we would end up playing most of the night. I knew that he was only doing it so that I wouldn't be left out but that was also the start of a wonderful friendship. That was just the way Jamie was as most of you that knew him already know. He went out of his way to make sure everyone was happy and that no one was left behind.

 I have since grown up and gotten to be a part of this group that turned out to the most awesome people in the world. Jamie was one of the most special people that I have ever had the privilege to know and I feel so lucky to have had the opportunity to be a part of his life. I thank God for every moment that I had with him. There is a song that I would like to dedicate to Jamie called "FRIENDS" by Michael W. Smith. It is a very powerful song and I think of him every time I hear it. I express myself a lot by writing because I am not one that likes to show my emotions very often and there is a poem that I would like to share with everyone. I wrote it in memory of Jamie.

A soldier stands tall takes what he receives, 
Fights not only for his country but what he believes.
He is honest, courageous, loyal, and strong,
Working every minute to try to right a wrong.
He fights for his country so we can be free,
He lays down his life for you and for me.
I once knew a soldier above all the rest,
He gave his all and did his very best.
I am proud to have know him and thank God everyday,
He was the most amazing person in every single way.
Forever I will miss him it is hard to let him go,
But he will always be in my heart, my friend, my hero.

I have since grown up and gotten to be a part of this group that turned out to be the most awesome people in the world and would like to say to Trish, Russ, Dave, Matt, Josh, Getchell and all the others that I am forgetting that I truly feel blessed to have friends like you and I love you all. 

To Matt and Chad I just want to say thank you for being there when I needed a friend and shoulder to cry on. It is appreciated more than you know. To Jamie's family I would like to say that I am deeply saddened by your loss as it is a big one of my own and that if any of you ever need anything please don't hesitate to ask. I would like to be there for all of you the way that Jamie was for me.

Last I would like to say to Jamie...I love you, I miss you, and I can't wait to see that beautiful smile of yours again someday. You will never be forgotten buddy!

Until We Meet Again,
Tausha Riebel

 

I'm afraid I don't have much of a story, just a memory really. Perhaps it might be comforting for his family to know that he is remembered to people who are very far away.

I lived in Derby for 4 years and was in the same class as Jamie. We knew each other from classes and would talk occasionally here and there, as classmates do. Our Freshman year we were in Mrs. Cunningham's English class. She was a lovely teacher and very fond of making up nicknames for all the students (i.e. Dawn was Dusk, James Noble was Chernobyl, I was Mememememe). My favourite, and the favourite of the class I would guess due to the laughter and smiles of all when she would say it, was Jamie's. 

She would sing out to the tune of Davey Crocket, "Jamie, Jamie Maugans, King of the Wild Frontier." I have never forgotten that nickname and told that story to many people throughout the years.

I moved away after that year, and have since then moved to Australia (that's why I have all those funny spellings for things like favourite). The events of September 11th touched me deeply here, as well as all of my Australian friends who's outpouring of support for America was amazing. I was saddened to hear about Jamie, it is such a tragedy. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends. I think the site that was set up is beautiful, and I hope that this little story brings a smile to his loved ones.

What I did know of Jamie, through our limited contact, was he was always warm, friendly, easy to talk to and always had a smile.

God Bless
Mimi Rodgers

 


I know I have a lot of stories of Jamie, who doesn't, I mean we took road trips to K-State, walked home from Josh's girlfriend's birthday party, where he told me he wanted to go into the army and be airborne, as well as many a time he told Josh that he had a friend hurting (me) during one of our falling's out, over Trish no less, and that it's his duty to make it better. However, one stands out that I'll never forget as long as I live, and well if I don't share this, I'd regret it, and parts I remember, are starting to fade...so maybe you guys can help me remember later on.

I was in college, it was my sophomore year, and I had just begun living in an apartment on my own. A small, studio apartment, with paper thin walls, a small, twin bed with a headboard I found in the hallway, and a couch made of wood, cinder blocks and an old green pad with a back, some of you slept on that when I lived with Josh and Rob. I never had any company, but one weekend, Josh, my brother Dave, Jamie, and Matt Everhart decided to come visit. As I recall it was Josh's senior year and he was driving the lambada mobile, otherwise known as the 70 Chevy Caprice. A car so large, you could park Joel Walker's vehicle in it with room to spare. Anyway, as the story goes, these guys, or at least I thought it was just the "guys" came up on a Friday I believe and low and behold, Matt brings a girl (an a-typical Matt thing). 

Well they arrive and we begin sitting around chatting, I don't recall, but we might have gone out. Now I don't promote Underage drinking, but I have to admit, at that stage, even Dave was drinking me under the table, and for a kid Jamie's size, we didn't think it would be a problem. Well as the night progresses, we begin to indulge, I think I had bought beer, or had someone buy it for us, and I think these guys brought something like Jim Beam...mmm mmm mmm...but no worries, cause Jamie can hold his liquor. 

Night falls, we're drunk, some girls call, Jamie said, invite 'em over, so I do. This is where comedy commences...as Mack Daddy Jamie begins to put moves on a girl who is dating my former roommate. She brings along some nasty looking chic, but never fear, cause young Maugans thinks Dave is attractive at this point. We're all kind of laughing, just making jokes, they think we're dorks, Jamie is still trying to make time with the ugly ones...but they end up leaving, we begin drinking again, and now Jamie and Dave are hammered. Surprisingly, even though I was a boy scout in high school, I had my fair share of tips to the lips and it was starting to get out of control. 

Picture 5 guys and 1 girl in a room the size of a shoebox, and the only source of entertainment is watching Matt hit on the girl he brought (in other words, outside of Jamie and Dave, the night was a bust). I mean I had a television, but it had one channel and I had it hooked up with tinfoil and wires connected to the curtain rods. Josh or I, one or the two, took the homemade couch and the other took the floor with "Jim Maugans - Male Prostitute" and Dave, who incidentally had not done much to this point...but, well, be Dave. 

Somewhere along the lines, Jamie got up to do a number, but was stumbling, and having a real hard time getting to the bathroom. Well Josh stepped up, helped him in there, but Jamie couldn't get his pants down...funny how a man saying he will just go in his pants can inspire anyone to help. Josh helped him get his pants down and somehow managed to get him centered over the toilet enough to do his duty, then proceeded to help him put his pants back up...now for me, Jamie's goods are Jamie's goods...and there is a point to getting too close, I think Josh was on the border. Now if you have ever heard Jamie's laugh, and it's one we'll all never forget, he's doing that while Josh is helping him, all the while trying to concentrate. About this time, we look over and Dave is vomiting in his sleep, now my dad is reading this, so I'll be brief, but he is just vomiting, while sleeping, all over himself, and all over what few blankets I had. I'm freaking out, getting him woken up. So he wakes up, I start cleaning that up, and Josh is helping Jamie, I don't know that either one of us was in a better position than the other, but it was quite a site to see. Then after everything is said and done, Josh and I stayed up til like 4 am cleaning up, doing laundry, and making sure everyone is okay. Now I ask you, where was Matt? Asleep....in my bed...(are you surprised?)

The Kicker was the next morning, they are packing up, we're giving Jamie and Dave crap about how "well" they hold their alcohol, and the phone rings. None of us answer it, but let my answering machine pick it up...it's the manager of the apartment complex. She says..."Russ, This is the manager, I understand you had a big party last night, I don't want to have to call your mother." At the time I was a bit frightened, it was not what I wanted to hear after our hellish night taking care of the bumbling twins.

Anyway, the point of all of this is that of all the years I had in college, all the parties we had, all of the people we've had to our house, all the excursions that I have been though, that is the one story that stands out the most.

I have several more, and could probably write a book of my own...as could most of you, but I wanted to share this with you and the people that could most understand how marvelous and magnificent the memories can be, even when that person is no longer with us. He'll never be gone, he'll always be with me...and I'm thankful for all of the time I spent with him, and for the cherished memories that did indeed make up Jamie Maugans. I hope he knew how much of an impact he made, I hope he realized that he had so many friends and family members and even extended Families that took him in to be part of their family, and how he touched each and every one of our lives. I also hope that each one of you realizes the same thing. 

God bless,

Russ

Russ Wilcox

(I want to apologize for hurting the person that accompanied the guys on this trip, no disrespect was intented towards her and her name was removed. The story was intended to poke fun at Matt and talk about Jamie, not slander her name...again, I offer my deepest apologies.)


Most of you do not know me or remember me very well because it has been way too long since I talked to my high school friends. I just starting communicating with Russ Wilcox again...my best friend in high school...and it was he who told me about this event. I remember Jamie and his brother Chad and the fun we had in band. I don't have a long past with either, though. I do want you all to know that my thoughts and prayers, as well as those of my family, go out to the family and to all of you who need an extra boost today. Take care and a big thank you to Russ for sharing this with me.

Joel Walker

Comments from Joel Walker

Hello all, Ryan Everhart here. Most of you all know me as Matt's little brother. That’s okay because that is how I met, and got to know Jamie. I always knew someday I would eventually get bigger than Jamie and hopefully pay him back for some of the beatings I received growing up. Not that those beatings were his fault mind you, he left it up to my brother to start the games.

Well that day never came, Jamie joined the army and I never could get myself to mess with a guy who blew things up for a living. Like Russ' my story is also one of underage drinking. I guess when we grow up in Derby there is just nothing else to do right? It started with a road trip to KU to visit my brother. Jamie was living with Matt at the time in an apartment on the west side of town. A couple friends of mine, Corey, Ian and I had made the journey to have fun and to see if KU was as fun as they said it was. After all it was our senior year and we need a place to go to college. I believe it must have been a Saturday night when Matt, Corey, Ian and I went out to a party somewhere on the other side of town. All I really remember is driving back from the party on one of the main drags and pulling over as Ian had to relieve himself. Jamie was not with us that night nor was he there when we arrived into town because he had to work at Target. He was home however when we got home. Now all of you know or you do know now that Jamie is a very hairy man and up to this point Corey and Ian had not met Jamie. We walk into the apartment and were getting ready to go to bed when Jamie walks out of his room with no shirt on. Needless to say with the alcohol in our system everyone busted out laughing. It was quite a site. I remember either Ian or Corey say "he looks like a freakin wookie!". (Wookie being Chewbacca from the early Star Wars movie.)

That’s the funny story (or at least funny to me) that comes to mind for me. I remember little tid-bits like jumping on his back when we were wrestling around and him not even flinch. I was little and he was big, I don't know what I was thinking. Being chased around by Jamie and my brother with sticks and other objects. There aren't too many people in the world like Jamie and I'm glad to have known him. He was a great friend of my brother, of mine and to the family. He will be missed. I wish he could have made it to my wedding and would have known that Michelle and I are going to have a baby.

To Matt, Josh, Russ, Dave, Trisha and other close friends I feel your pain and hope that stories will help ease that pain. I miss you all and events like this make it so hard to be away from home.

Gods Speed Jamie,
Ryan

Ryan Everhart

 


Thank you for the emails and photos of Jamie. He was so sweet; a big guy, yet such a "teddy bear". We will miss him. It is such a tragedy. I was talking to Kristie last night. She, of course, remembers Jamie...and recalls harassing him when he came over to the house (back in her junior high days)! 

Love, Barb 

Contributed by Barbara Wilcox (Parent of Russ and Dave Wilcox)

When I received the pictures from Russ, it brought back a lot of memories. The first picture was of Jamie and his big grin. It brought a big smile to my face. I haven't seen him in many years and don't have the stories/memories to tell but that smile made an impression on me. I remember a great guy and I feel for all of you close to him. It has been years for me, and it affected me. I will be thinking of everyone and take care.

Marc

Contributed by Marc McCall


I talked with Jaime quite a bit online while he was in San Diego. Most of the time it was usually late at night . He was always just getting in from a night out with friends out there. Most of the time we would talk about him being ready to come back and see all of us back here. Usually I would always kid him about that San Diego Padres jersey that he promised me. I've decided that I'm going to go ahead and get that jersey and have his name put on the back. I’m not really going to tell any certain story but more just kind of tell you how I feel. Jamie was a guy that you could tell anything to and he would always listen....and sometimes he would throw some advice to you. But most of all he would just listen to what you had to say. And he would never judge you by what you did say. You know like all the grammatical errors that I'm probably making...he wouldn't judge me for that either. I want to say (and I'm sure this goes for Ryan too) that you guys have all been like older brothers to me. ALL of you have! And I think that everyone in this "circle" (including moms and dads) feels like we are all family....and we are. I hope we all remember that. To take something from what Josh said in the paper "Jaime always treated everybody like it was the last time that he would see them" and I think that is something we should learn from. We shouldn’t ever let anything ever come between friendship. 

And being that most of us are now married, women shouldn’t be a problem anymore. Besides I don't think Jenny Guler lives around here anymore! :) Growing up I always looked up to all of you guys. You liked to kind of poke fun at me every once in a while...but hey, that's what big brothers do. I have learned something from every one of you guys. What I learned from Jamie the most is probably commitment. When he didn't pass his physical to get into the army…sure he was down a little at first, but it wasn’t gonna stop him from his achievement. He worked hard to get into the army. But it was not just the army he was committed to...it was also his family and friends. I can think back at a few times where someone was always mad at somebody about something...but I cant think of one time that I have ever heard of anyone being mad at Jamie or Jamie being mad at someone. That commitment to life is something i will always remember about Jamie Maugans. Jaime was a true friend to everyone he met. I hope that we can learn from him and remain committed to our friendships. I want to thank you Jaime for teaching me that. I will try to always remember it.

We all love you,
Kelly M. Gray


Kelly Gray


First let me say thank you to all who maybe didn't know Jamie as well, but has offered their condolences and comforting words. It really helps to begin the healing process. I also ask that you keep Jamie's family in your prayers in this confusing and trying time for them. I cannot wait to get home and see everybody and Jamie's parents; I think that will help me tremendously to gain some closure. 

My story goes back a little further and varies slightly from the others that I have heard in that it reveals a different perspective on the friendship between Jamie and I. It goes back to the first time I met Jamie (I believe it was the third grade). This was a story he and I used to laugh about because contrary to many people's belief we didn't start out as friends. As a matter of fact, our first encounter was one of altercation. 

It started with Jamie climbing the "Big Toy" at Pleasantview. You all remember the wooden jungle gyms on the playgrounds, right? Anyway, the one at Pleasantview had a three tiered tower that you could climb and look out the windows of. Jamie figured out that from that height and position you could also spit very long distances. You may see where this one is going... Jamie loaded up and shot one directly on top of me. Thoroughly angered I tried to coax him down from his stoop, but he wasn't having any of it. So, I decided to go up after him. Before the playground aides could show up, I had a hold of Jamie's leg trying to yank him out of that tower. He wasn't budging, but boy was I trying. I don't really remember the follow-up, but I know we were friends after that because I remember hanging out a lot with Jamie and Jason King after school. I also remember walking home with Jamie at times because we both lived in the Derby Hills area.

There are so many more stories that I could tell; some of which my parents probably don't need to know (but thanks anyway Russ hehe). Stories like when we used to drive around in the "Power Van" when we were 14 and 15 and I used to give him rides home from his job at McDonalds; or the times Jamie, Serenity, and I used to leave school a little early to cruise in the Mustang our Senior year only to meet all the "cool" graduates like Getchell down at the Sonic (We were the only fools there in the middle of winter, remember the picture in the yearbook Scott?). The band trips; weekends at my Grandparents; M-TV's top ten at five; Stealth mode in Josh's car; 99; 127; 159; my trying times at KU; the good times, the bad times; I could go on for days.

Jamie was definitely one of the most important people in my life and he will be greatly missed. He had a heart of gold and was the best friend a guy could ever have.

Let us not forget the cause that Jamie and thirty-six others have died for. Be proud Americans and keep fighting for what we believe in. This is the greatest country in the world and to Jamie it was worth the risk!

We're proud of you Maugans, and we won't forget!

Love,
Dave

Contributed by Dave Wilcox


Hey Everybody, just how awesome it is that Jamie has been such a huge part of our lives and how great it is that everybody is sharing their stories. I sit here and I think about all the past memories that I've had with Jamie, there’s no doubt that most of you have been around Jamie a lot longer than I have, but I will always cherish the time in which Jamie had become a very close personal friend. In a time when I needed people the most (we all know the time) Jamie was there for me, not just some of the time but all of the time.

He always made sure I was taken care of and at the time I wasn't sure why he would always go out of his way to help me. As the bad times started to get better I realized Jamie is genuine. he is that one person who cares more about his friends and family than he did himself. Our group of friends is blessed to have somebody like him. 
When I think back on stories I remember can remember a couple; One that stands out right after we all graduated all of our friends were buying their new motorcycles you know the really fast chic magnets.

Well I decided to get one a 1980 Kawasaki LTD. The bike came with banana handle bars and everything even weighed a few thousand pounds. Okay, back to the story. One day we were all on our bike and everybody was doing wheelies up and down the street. My bike would do them until we figured out that if Jamie was on back. So Jamie gets on here we come flying down the street on one wheel with Jamie sitting on back with his hands flying in the air and screaming like a woman. The man could make anything happen. 

We love ya man, you will always be with us

Contributed by Scott Getchell

 


I'm glad to see so many of our friends reaching out to one another with stories that bring out the cherished memories of Jamie. He was a good friend, a good listener, and an all around good person. It makes me sad that this had to happen, especially to someone that was such a good friend to us all.

I got to hang out with Jamie a lot (unfortunately no time recently) whether it was in Derby at the Wilcox house or somewhere else in Derby, when he visited K-State, or when I visited KU. And the one thing that I remember most, putting all of the partying and carrying on aside, was talking with him. We didn't exactly call each other all of the time to see what was going on, but when we did hang out we always had a lot to talk about, and I think that's exactly why this is special to me. I will always remember talking to him and he would want to know all about what I was doing. The conversations would go back and forth about each of us, but he would always steer it back towards me. He would be smiling all of the time and always took a great interest in what I had to say and in others, that's just the way he was. He would never start a new conversation leaving my words floating in thin air. Jamie would give me his full attention until he knew I was finished talking. But even then, he would keep asking me more. It made me happy to know that I had a friend that took that much interest in my life and it makes me happy to know that I have friends like all of you who do the same.

Most people outside of our group of friends are dumbfounded when I speak of you guys back home. They just can't imagine how many friends we have, still, since high school, even elementary school. How close we are and how the number of friends keeps growing. 

Even if we don't see each other very often, it says a lot about the type of people we are and the type of people our friends are, and especially Jamie. He knew exactly how to make us feel better about what was going on in our lives and what we were doing. He was truly a good person and still a good friend, because even though he isn't here anymore, he will always be with us every time we're together. I can't imagine a time, from this day forward when we get together that Jamie's name, a story that involved him, or a story about him won't come up in conversation. I know this has changed our lives, but it also shows how close we've been and how close we are and how much he meant to all of us.

My heart goes out to Jamie's family, my friends and their families, and especially Jamie. He meant so much to those around him and those of us that cherished his friendship and loved him like family. Jamie will truly be missed, but not forgotten.

Contributed by Corey Shulda

Just thought I would say hello and send my condolences. I spoke with Dave (Wilcox) earlier this week. I feel real bad about Jamie. Although I was not a close friend of his I was around him enough over the years to know that he was a great guy and I can see why his friends loved him so much. I just thought that you and the rest of his friends should know that others are thinking about what happened and will keep you all in our prayers. 

Ryan Pitts

Friend

Although I do not have any personal experience stories with Jamie, I just wanted to say that I think what you are doing with this chain e-mail is such an awesome tribute to him. Everyone should be so lucky as to have such a large group of very close friends. Somehow I think he knew how much he meant to you all.

I remember Jamie from his time he worked here at the Turnpike as summer help. I have also seen and talked to him on several occasions at Buster's with the gang. I know he was the kind, gentle and considerate person you have all described. You all have every right to be proud to call him a true friend.

I never had a son, but if I had, I would have wanted him to turn out just like any one of you guys. Russ and Dave are the closest I have come to having sons and I know how much Jan thought of Jamie. I have heard her talk about him a lot. I think it is so cool that so many of you have stayed close and still hang together since childhood. Never take that for granted. Your closeness with each other will help you through this. The memories you have of Jamie will comfort and help you smile the rest of your lives. He is a true hero and will never be forgotten.

I just wanted to let you know that Jamie's family and all his friends are in my prayers.

May God comfort and keep you,
Candy Bell

Candy Bell – Co-worker/ Friend

Well, here I am feeling like I have lost one of my own sons. Jamie was with our family since grade school and I remember Kathy and I going on the field trips with our sons. There was Jamie, the quiet one, and David the ornery one (sorry Dave). We had many good times at our house. Jamie was always so kind and polite and always made a special effort to come and tell me thank you for everything. I remember the grade school, junior high and high school band concerts. I remember the trip to the Citrus Bowl and Dan was the sponsor for Dave and Jamie's room. What a fun trip that was!!! He always knew where Dan was with the camera and would look out of the corner of his eye with that big grin. He was the belly buster king at our pool and always was trying to see how far he could make a splash.

Everyone of you have been at my house at sometime in your lives and I love you all. You have been great friends to my boys as well as Dan and I. I thank Scott Getchell and Trisha for coming over and spending time with Dan and I the other night as they knew we were both hurting as you all are. It is so neat to see you all coming together and supporting each other through this difficult time. I'm sure you all are realizing it now but friends are very important in a person's life. When something goes wrong in our lives our close friends and family will always be there to pick up the pieces.
Friendship should never be taken for granted. Please treat this tragedy as a learning lesson to always keep in touch with each other, pray for each other, listen to each other and most of all tell your friends and family that you love them. You may not get the chance again.

Here is a piece that I found the other day and it sums up my feelings for Jamie:

"People important to you, people unimportant to you cross your life, touch it with love and carelessness and move on. There are people who leave you, and you breathe a sigh of relief, and wonder why you ever came in contact with them. There are people who leave you and you breath a sigh of remorse, and wonder why they had to go away and leave such a gaping hole. Children leave parents. Friends leave friends. Acquaintances move on. People change homes. People grow apart. Enemies hate and move on. Friends love and move on. I believe in God's master plan in lives. He moves people in and out of each other's lives and each leave his mark on the other. You find that you are made up of bits and pieces of all who ever touched your life, and you are more because of it. And you would be less if they had not touched you."

I know I would be less if I had never known Jamie. He was a friend who
left a mark on my life. Thank you Jamie being a huge part of the lives of my boys and Dan and I. You truly are our hero!!!

We love you Jamie!

Dan and Jan Strunk

Parents of Russ and Dave Wilcox

Good morning Chad,

First of all, thank you for the update, and for keeping me in the loop of things...it's extremely hard being away from everyone at this point, not having friends to comfort me who knew him, and the worst part is that no one has answers to the questions we all have.

On a personal note Chad, I just want to tell you that your brother meant the absolute world to me. He was the kindest, most considerate person I ever met in my life. I have several stories and several life experiences with Jamie, but above all, the one thing that stands out lately when I think of Jamie is the night he told me he was going to join the military. We were walking home from one of Josh's girlfriend's house and he put it on the line for me. He told me that he had talked to your mom about joining the military, that he wanted to do airborne, at the time, he mentioned another choice, but I don't think EOD was one of them, and that she was distraught and didn't want him to join, but he said he needed to convince her that it was the best thing for him. I think he was working for Best Buy still and Matt Everhart was eager to get him on board with the Military and Jamie was all for it. When he couldn't go, I, like everyone else was relieved, but when he finally got his weight down and told me he was going, I was terrified. Jamie was one of my best friends, he knew me pretty much inside and out, he was a friend to everyone, and enemy to noone, I just didn't think 1, he could do it, and 2, was right for the military and all of it's democratic nonsense. I was wrong on both parts. If ever there was someone just right for a job and able to do it effectively, it was Jamie.

Every time he came home he had new stories, and he told me one night that he finally found his niche. School wasn't the place for him and he always felt lost, but the military gave him direction, gave him confidence, and you could tell just by looking at him, and talking with him that he loved what he did and that for maybe the first time in his life, he knew what he wanted and how to go about doing it.

Your brother is truly unparalleled by anyone else I ever met...and he was so much like a family member to me and my family, as well as Josh and his, and Matt and his. He was an extension to so many families, I'm sure I'm leaving some out. The end all...be all is....if you ever need me, or I can ever help you or your family, immediate and extended with anything, all you have to do is call me. Though you and I may have never been as close as Jamie and I were, I want you to know you can count on me for anything and everything. I hope you know how much I loved Jamie and how much he meant to me...and how much you and your family means to me too. I hope we can get together when I'm home occassionally and just have a drink or two, or take our wives and kids to dinner, I truly want my family to know yours and learn more about Jamie...it means that much! Take care, god bless, and my prayers and heart are with you.

Russ Wilcox
Let us talk about Jamie...Man oh man was he a lost soul for a while. I used to wonder about him and what he was going to do with is life. I do not think that I was as worried as Mom or Dad, but I sometimes had some doubts. I remember the day when he told everyone he was going to join the Army. Mom was fired up, David did not think it was such a good idea, my Dad had great reservations about him enlisting. They really got worried when he selected his M.O.S. in E.O.D. I do not really remember him failing, but I do remember him losing all that weight, eating better, and a shit load of running/exercise. 

Mom used to talk about how Jamie and I did not like authority or being told what to do!! She was right, neither one of us liked authority. everyone was questioning why??? he choose the Army. It did puzzle most people, but I was one of the few who actually supported him and actually sat down and listened to his career choice. It was a perfect selection for him. He loved blowing shit up. He was very methodical in his approach to solving problems, and he was never in a hurry....E.O.D. and Jamie were a perfect match for each other. 

I was so very proud of Jamie when he completed his training. I was worried, but I knew Jamie was the right person for the job. When he reached his units in Korea, Jamie just grew into an awesome solider. San Diego was no different, he just got better with the more experiences that he had. Jamie aged like a fine wine, just gets better with time!!!! Then he made me the proudest ever, when he was deployed to Afghanistan. That poor country never saw him coming. You always gotta be careful of the quiet guys, they will knock your feet, right out from under you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My family has paid the highest price and made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedoms and freedoms of others...Jamie's short, but wonderful life!! This is the part where I get to rant!! I also feel that Jamie died needlessly. I also feel that Jamie died protecting a group of people who will never know him or appreciate what he has done for them. His actions of destroying weapons of war saved the countless lives of his fellow soldiers as well as the vastly ungrateful Afghani people. There are only a couple of things that even make Jamie's death remotely understandable, and that is he loved his work. Look at his pictures, he loved his work so much that he was willing to lay down his life for his fellow brothers/soldiers without question and with compromise. That is what keeps me going. 

My family as well as I do appreciate the kindness, prayers, and concerning thoughts about us as well as Jamie in this darkest of hours. I thank you, for being such a good friend to Jamie. He did speak highly of all of his friends. Once Jamie gave his friendship to someone, you had it all the time and without question.

Russ, thanks for everything and for allowing me to vent...it does help. I will keep you updated as we learn more. take care....


Chad Maugans
Brother/Friend


Have you ever wondered why the flag of the United States of America is folded 13 times when it is lowered or when it is folded and handed to the widow at the burial of a veteran? Here is the meaning of each of those folds and what it means to you.

The 'first fold' of our flag is a symbol of life.

The 'second fold' is a symbol of our belief in eternal life.

The 'third fold' is made in honor and remembrance of the veterans departing our ranks who gave a portion of their lives for the defense of our country to attain peace throughout the world.

The 'fourth fold' represents our weaker nature, for as American citizens trusting in God, it is to Him we turn in times of peace as well as in time of war for His divine guidance.

The 'fifth fold' is a tribute to our country, for in the words of Stephen Decatur, "Our Country, in dealing with other countries may she always be right; but it is still our country, right or wrong."

The 'sixth fold' is for where our hearts lie. It is with our heart that we pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States Of
America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with Liberty and Justice for all.

The 'seventh fold' is a tribute to our Armed Forces, for it is through the Armed Forces that we protect our country and our flag against all her enemies, whether they be found within or without the boundaries of our republic.

The 'eighth fold' is a tribute to the one who entered into the valley of the shadow of death, that we might see the light of day, and to honor mother, for whom it flies on Mother's Day.

The 'ninth fold' is a tribute to womanhood; for it has been through their faith, their love, loyalty and devotion that the character of the men and women who have made this country great has been molded.

The 'tenth fold' is a tribute to the father, for he, too, has given his sons and daughters for the defense of our country since they
were first born.

The 'eleventh fold', in the eyes of a Hebrew citizen represents the lower portion of the seal of King David and King Solomon, and glorifies in their eyes, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.

The 'twelfth fold', in the eyes of a Christian citizen, represents an emblem of eternity and glorifies, in their eyes, God the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit.

When the flag is completely folded, the stars are uppermost reminding us of our nation's motto, "In God We Trust".

After the flag is completely folded and tucked in, it takes on the appearance of a cocked hat, ever reminding us of the soldiers who served under General George Washington, and the sailors and marines who served under Captain John Paul Jones, who were followed by their comrades and shipmates in the Armed Forces of the United States, preserving for us the rights, privileges, and freedoms we enjoy today.

The next time you see a flag ceremony honoring someone that has served our country, either in the Armed Forces or in our civilian services such as the Police Force or Fire Department, keep in mind all the important reasons behind each and every movement. They have paid the ultimate sacrifice for all of us by honoring our flag and our Country.



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